A Florida couple argued that school officials violated their rights by honoring their child’s request for a different name and pronouns without first informing them.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/41943780

A Florida couple argued that school officials violated their rights by honoring their child’s request for a different name and pronouns without first informing them.

  • shirasho@feddit.onlineEnglish
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    2 months ago

    Imagine living in a world where “your” “rights” involve somebody else. In no universe do rights involve another person.

    • kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world
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      2 months ago

      So many people treat parenting as ownership. You have a right as a parent to decide how you parent (within the bounds of the law). You also have the responsibility to provide the bare minimum to your child as required by law. Shelter, food, clothes, access to healthcare, and education. You have some legal rights over choices for your child’s healthcare (after the legal minimum is met), for better or worse, which does mean that you have to be given relevant medical data about them too. But that is about it. Beyond pertinent medical data for healthcare choices, you don’t have a right to know anything your child does not wish to share with you. You certainly don’t have a right to compel others to provide that information to you. The idea of that is insane.

      • notwhoyouthink@lemmy.zipEnglish
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        2 months ago

        As a person who was raised by a parent just like this, I can say that a lot of it stems from the fact that many parents wrongly see their children not as individuals but as extensions of themselves.

        This mindset creates that ‘ownership’ mentality and behaviors, which nearly always leads to disappointment, projection, control, manipulation, and rejection.

          • Holytimes@sh.itjust.works
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            2 months ago

            Iv found the majority of parents have kids either because they are narcissistic as fuck, or by total and utter accident.

            Almost no parents become parents because they set out for the express goal of raising a kid with entirely good intentions.

            Fundamentally there has to be some level of narcissism to think reproducing for the pure sake of reproducing is a good thing. Biologically that narcissistic intent is what keeps things going.

            But it means it takes a willfulness and mindfulness to be a good parent. It requires effort and self awareness. Its why a good parent is such a respectful thing. To be able to do it says a hell of a lot about how good of a person you are.

            Its also why it’s so rare …