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    I’m 4B with qualifiers: No sex with anyone on the right, no dating anyone on the right, no marriage with anyone on the right, and no babies for America.

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    Ha! In a century or two it will be the Taliban v the Mormons for supremacy of what’s left of earth.

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    Date who you want. Do what you think is best. But it’s weird that abortion is so often posited as a gender question when race is a better predictor. If white women stop voting for Republicans all of our rights would be safe.

    Talk to your mothers and aunts, the rest of us can’t outvote them yet.

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    Not procreating has always been a natural phenomenon in collapsing species. We just have more words about it because we think, therefore we think we’re special.

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    Am I missing something or is 4B essentially MGTOW for women?

    Just viewed through a more positive lens specifically because it’s women.

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    When the ideology is so bad it just volunteers itself out of the gene pool.

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    Hardcore Trump fans will still fuck and procreate. I don’t consider sex abstinence a viable long-term strategy.

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    Is there some underlying assertion here that woman enjoy sex less than dudes? Or that sex is some kind of favor to men on the part of women without mutual enjoyment? Not having sex with someone is pretty easy if that other person is a shitty person. Otherwise I think both genders enjoy genuine intimacy and physical contact by someone they enjoy being around.

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    Just don’t date conservative men. First date, ask them their politics. It’s literally that simple.

    You should really have a suite of questions to weed out partners you don’t want. This is what the first few dates are really for. Ask them their politics, if they voted, and who they voted for, their stance on abortion etc.

    All you’re going to get with this is friendly fire. Conservatives generally do not prefer leftist women.

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      Part of 4B is to avoid pregnancy, especially in an environment that has banned abortions and restricted contraceptives (e.g. Project 2025).

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      Men will lie, especially if they’re trying to get your clothes off. So a single question isn’t quite enough. Maybe a discussion about politics on relevant issues, for example.

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        As a man this is spot on. My old roommate “presented” as a neoliberal hippy with wood-bead bracelets, but would literally talk about how he wanted slaves so he didn’t have to work. Some men are literally closeted Republicans that know if they are honest they will be sexless

        Get yourselves a socialist, ladies. Neoliberals are just spineless republicans

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        First of all, you’ll be able to get their vibe from a political conversation unless they’re very well informed and very intelligent, which conservatives generally are not.

        Second, if you’re forcing them to lie then it creates cognitive dissonance in their brain. So at the very least that can create genuine progress, as problematic as that may be.

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          When I was in high school decades ago, debate club went to a convention and one of the debate rounds was “women shouldn’t be allowed to vote”. My very good looking friend (male) argued that they shouldnt and he was so charming and confident that he got crazy crazy laid for the rest of the event. I think it helped that we all sort of understood it was not reality but a chance to do debate flourishes, but still. What the hell is that? Its almost as if the topic itself and womens’ resistence to it made him even more attractive.

          He’s a minor republican operative now-- we dont talk.

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        Source: Pretty much every episode of It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia (and, of course, real life)

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        They can’t keep up that sort of lie for too long without the mask slipping. So it’s a good idea to require a fair amount of together time before considering being intimate.

        Especially the people who would be worth avoiding wouldn’t have the patience and feel very entitled, so they are less likely to stick around for an early dating period.

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        Personally right wing chicks are a no go for me so if you’re not openly atheistic (at least in spirit) and socially progressive and futurist and mega smart super nerd into PhD level autism I probably won’t even bother, it’ll never work. I’m also not looking for company so…

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    Conservatives don’t want women to sleep around and have casual sex. So they make abortion illegal. In protest women stop having sex. Conservatives get exactly the outcome they wanted.

    The Korean 4B movement is TERF on top.

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    To men who are actively sleeping with women, or who want to, now is a great time to consider a vasectomy. It’s cheap and safe and greatly reduces the risk of undesirable outcomes.

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    MAGA is a promotional tour for lesbianism and sex toys. Toxic masculinity does not attract women and never did.

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        22% of Americans voted for Trump. 78% did not. I can tell you I voted and was offered to answer none of those questions from that site. So I’m going to say none of them represent all of the voters if you don’t actually ask all of the voters.

        Just for the sake of more information: 337m Percentage over 18 ~78% That makes about 262m voters possible. 74m vote for Trump makes 28-29% of possible votes in 2024 81m votes for Biden in 2020, population was around 331m then. About 31-32% of the possibilible votes.

        Point being, people need to vote. Making voting easier makes it possible to ensure you get a more complete tally of what people want in a democracy. People shouldn’t have to jump through hoops to say they won’t be in town, and will be working or w.e else to convince someone that a mail in ballot is wanted.
        Should have a request a ballot button online as well. Why mail a form in to have the forms sent to you. Gets rid of some waste there too.

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          Uhh… 335 million Americans, 260 million voting age Americans. With 63% turnout.

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          22% of Americans voted for Trump. 78% did not.

          and what, 40% of those didn’t vote at all? How many people here voted for kamala 20%? 21%? Man you aren’t very good at statistics.

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            That data was irrelevant to the premise. I could also have listed how many men, women, and chariots voted, but it really doesn’t do anything more than show that if there is a 2 party system, it would be nice to have the winner near 50%. Id like to see everyone vote.

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          People want to vote. Give them a candidate and party worth voting for.

          Abstaining from a broken system is a protest in itself. How else would we know how broken the system was if people weren’t allowed to withhold their vote from all candidates.

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            There’s abstaining and there’s not being bothered to vote

            If the object is to send the message that the current options aren’t good enough at least in the UK we vote for parties other than the main two (green and reform for example)

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            I’m not saying to force everyone to vote. But if mandatory voting was a thing I’d say put a new candidates opinion in, and if it gets over 50% of the popular vote, all new candidates required would be an interesting change. Probably has holes, but what the hell, I’ll try anything rather than this 2 party money fueled government we have now

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            People can write in a name. That’s a protest vote, and one that should be fine in a mandatory voting system as seen in literally all the places it is.

            A good candidate would be a great idea to help deal with apathy from a difficult to vote in system but making it easier would also be a huge step up.

            Both things are needed and I wish could be done in any order. But not voting at all is definitely the goal of one side more than the other.

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        Looks like I triggered you. I’m sure all those white women who voted Trump want to be abused, battered, and raped by all the Fuentes incels.

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          What is wrong with you? No I decided my comment wouldn’t be well received and decided to delete it.

          It was a comment about men driving bi women into my lesbian arms

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    Opposition to transgender rights movements

    The 4B movement predominantly sees transgender rights movements as incompatible with feminism.[10] Developing out of transgender-exclusionary radical feminism (T.E.R.F.), the movement holds to gender-critical views on sex and gender,[10] supporting gender essentialism and the exclusion of transgender women from feminist spaces.[12][14] Advocates of 4B are opposed to what they call “gender ideology” (젠더론x) and promote excluding transgender women from feminist spaces, as well as romantic or sexual relationships with them (트젠 안사요).[10] In South Korea, members of the 4B have created gatherings exclusively for what they call “biological females” and “real women”.[10]

    yikes

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      The American version need not be TERF though. It is not an inherent part of what 4B actually entails and is extraneous to the purpose of 4B.

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      The changelog shows that this section has been added sometime between Oct 30 (last version before Nov) and today. Some possibilities:

      1. disinformation to discourage the movement. I find this most likely given that “Trans” did not appear anywhere in the original article until this was politicized in the US. The updates between versions inserted anti-trans language in multiple places throughout the article.
      2. Or, if this is actually part of the SK movement, then I have not heard anything TERF related for the US movement. The US movement probably should rename or otherwise distinguish itself from that.

      Either way, I do not think this should be a point to discredit the movement. It at minimum does not seem related to the US movement and IMO is likely some clever FUD attempt to undermine the movement before it gets traction.

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        Just be aware that people might be into 4B for the purpose of man-hating. A lot of times man-hating extends to transphobia.

        The ideological basis is strong.

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      Ffs, you can do 4b without being transphobic.

      Just because some 4b assholes with a website have written a transphobic clause in their manifesto, doesn’t mean they speak for all 4b followers.

      Stop shitting all over this movement because you’ve found somebody in it with an awful take on an unrelated matter.

      Not having sex or relationships with folk who can impregnate you is sensible when your country is about to ban abortion and restrict contraceptive access.

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        I had not heard of this movement before today. Forgive me if my first instinct is to read their Wikipedia, and be off-put by various descriptions of transphobic stances. I agree with the stated goals, and @[email protected] pointed out that the article might have been manipulated to paint them in a bad light.
        If that’s the case, then I hope the article gets corrected with proper sources soon, and I apologize for the misunderstanding. But I don’t like that you’re insinuating that trans issues, and transphobia in particular, are unrelated to feminism.
        I wish everyone earnestly resisting attempts to limit bodily autonomy strength and success in their endeavors.

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          I’m not saying trans rights are unrelated to feminism.

          I’m saying that transphobic rhetoric has been shoehorned into this cause and has nothing to do with abstaining from PiV sex for the safety and respect of ovulating people.

          Also you may not be aware of how conservative South Korea is. There probably are more than a few transphobic 4b South Koreans as feminism as a movement is still newer there.

          In ‘western’ countries, radical feminism (with all its flaws) was an integral part of the cultural/philosophical journey into the 3rd wave and intersectional feminism as we know it today.

          It would be really nice if the gender critical terf bullshit could be skipped when other cultures journey into exploring feminism, but as conservative culture by definition has such deeply ingrained bigotry towards minorities, it might sadly just be inevitable.

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        I mean, we kind of act like the worst men speak for the entire gender. These people can choose to be 4B

        And I am saying this as someone who thinks if the entire male population of the US dropped dead on Nov 4 the world would be a better place.

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      The 4B movement predominantly sees transgender rights movements as incompatible with feminism

      Interesting, that his since been deleted from the Wikipedia article.