• mycorrhiza they/them@lemmy.ml
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    i think it’s a fucking massive leap to characterize hexbear as a “pro-sexual harassment” environment. You can argue that they are overzealous in who they consider nazis sometimes, but multiple hexbears earlier in the thread did call /u/randint a nazi apologist for defending Adrien Zenz, so it’s clear they considered him a fair target. Hexbear users see hog posting as punching upward at privileged bullies and reactionaries they are powerless against in real life. You can dispute that view, you might even consider them delusional or self-indulgent, but I think it’s an enormous leap to conclude that they are generally in favor of sexual harassment of people.

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      I got dozens of people telling my to post my dick because I said that neopronouns are stupid.

      I wouldn’t consider myself a Nazi, I’m extremely anti-Nazi. I’m very involved in trans activism in real life. I’m in management - I changed schedule posting so that it includes pronouns. I ordered give out free pronoun pins (I wear one too). I correct people and guests when they misgender someone. I’ve been to marches and I’ve donated to events. I have a lil trans flag in my window. Real life trans safety and inclusion is important to me. (And why I’m off put when a Hexbear confuses all people with penises as automatically being “men”) I’m not making these up to try to look a certain kind of way, this is all verifiably real and I can get you the pictures and receipts if you need them.

      Maybe I’m not pronoun progressive enough yet and I’ll change my mind later. I still think neopronouns are stupid, and only part of chronic online-ness. I’m willing to consider that I might still be in the wrong here.

      But if you sexually harass someone and get 100 upvotes, you’re punching down.

      If the mods delete any posts and ban users who call out sexual harassment, you’re punching down.

      What I see is people who probably don’t stand up to bullies in real life, they turn into bullies when they’re the big fish in a little pond.

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        You called them unhinged for having neo pronouns. People have been attacking them for years, they expect a fight, and if you come in and fucking mock their pronouns and talk down to them they’re not gonna care enough to find out about your real world stances or activism, they’re just going to look at the comment right in front of them, and assume you’re some bigoted CNN lib who pays performative lip service to genderqueer rights but sees them as goofy caricatures and has no interest in understanding them. They get enough people like that already. If they took the time to investigate and understand and categorize everyone who threw shit at them it’d be a fucking full time job.

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          You called them unhinged for having neo pronouns

          No I didn’t, now that’s a gross misrepresentation.

          I said it was unhinged that I was being told that I was literally Hitler because I think neopronouns are silly.

          If you think everyone who finds neopronouns impractical for real life is a Nazi, that sounds pretty unhinged, I still feel that way.

          some bigoted CNN lib who pays performative lip service to genderqueer rights

          Pfff, yeah when in that same post Hexbears couldn’t tell the difference between a man and a person with a penis.

          If they took the time to investigate and understand and categorize everyone who threw shit at them it’d be a fucking full time job.

          Well I guess that’s the way you justify sexual harassment.

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          And for the record, I didn’t come out swinging against neopronouns. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with neo-pronouns themselves.

          What happened is that I saw a community who

          • sexually harasses people
          • fetishizes violence and executions
          • fears and mistrusts the media (to an extreme)
          • draws harsh in-group out-group lines
          • blurs the lines of their opinions with irony
          • “the West”

          And I saw all that and double sets of pronouns including neopronouns, and I was like omg, it’s Nazis pretending to be leftists. They act like Nazis, who ran with the pronoun thing and took it to the highest level. (I know now they aren’t Nazi’s, but the behavior makes a really bad first impression)

          The problem was never actually the neopronouns. It was the Nazi-like behavior that came attached.