• andrew_bidlaw@sh.itjust.works
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    10 months ago

    There’s no need to even ask them out right away. Just having a casual conversation and making them speak of their interests can warm them to you.

    Are they your coworker? Sigh at how needy clients are, tell how you want to have a break, ask what they want to do when they have them. Discuss details.

    A cinema worker is harder, but you can play a dummy and ask them if they see the movies screened there and can vouch for some of them or if they can suggest some snack from a bar, to break the ice.

    People like talking about themselves. All have hilarious stories to tell. One needs to make them open up and react in a supportive way. Looking up interviewers on youtube can get one a better idea of how it’s done than these greesy pick-up artists. Genuinely enjoying a conversation rather than being hungry for a pussy\dick and making it all about yourself is a great start.

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        10 months ago

        No, you flex your social skills by trying to get to know the person you’re, at this point, only physically attracted to. These are all things a normal person who doesn’t need dating advice knows. But here we are, spelling it out for those I the back of the class.

        • richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one
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          10 months ago

          These are all things a normal person who doesn’t need dating advice knows.

          So any person with some difficulties should just go fuck themselves. Got it.

          Did you enjoy your popularity in high school? Did you punch many weird people for fun?

      • WillFord27@lemmy.world
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        10 months ago

        I think they meant you learn more about their personality to know if you want to be with them in the first place. Why wouldn’t you want to learn more about someone you want to be with?